Today’s remark – you screwed up?

– Posted on Oct 23, 2012 by Margie Albert

Anyone else out there dwell on mistakes? I know I do and, oftentimes, they keep me up at night. No one beats me up better than I do! I’m working on realizing I am human, I make mistakes and so do you.

So how do we move on? Here are some quick suggestions:

  • Own up to it immediately – saying “I’m sorry, I made a mistake. Please forgive me” can be quite disarming. Then-
  • Find a solution as quickly as possible
  • Don’t assume it’s too late – even if you said something in a meeting and realize 2 days later you blew it find a way to acknowledge it and clear it up
  • Don’t ignore it and hope it will go away. Most often it doesn’t plus you will feel lousy waiting
  • Learn from the mistake – analyze it, how it happened, why you said/did it. Were you motivated by anger, power, fear, lack of knowledge? How can you prevent this from happening again?
  • If nobody died, lost their job or went to the hospital move on. The mistake won’t be significant in the long run
  • Be forgiving of yourself – when someone else makes a mistake don’t you forgive and forget? Be your own best friend rather than your enemy

Remember – we ALL make mistakes. It’s how we handle them that make us remark-able.

 

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3 comments

  1. Margie

    Glad you liked this Joseph! Thx for your comment and for retweeting as well – appreciate it!

  2. William Jorn

    It also says a lot about us with regard to accepting confession from others. It seems there are those who will not offer confession and will not accept confession either.

  3. Amen Bill! I had a supervisor once who I confessed to and he tore into me – left a lasting scar. I understood why he was upset and could have accepted his anger if he apologized later or even recognized he handled it poorly but he never did. I vowed then I would always at least try to be understanding even if it took all I had inside to do so. In other words, I tried to learn from his mistake.

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